再过一个月，就是我们华人的农历新年，也该是时候物色几件新衣过年了吧！

于是今天早上送了儿子上学后，就约了那几个师奶一起去IKEA吃早餐和买衣服咯。

IKEA是我们这些师奶和一些退休人士最喜欢去的地方。在那儿吃早餐是最经济的，而且每天都卖不同的食物。有时是炒面，米粉，粿条，饭，粥，椰浆饭才RM1而已。另外还有叉烧包，连蓉包，炸鸡翼，沙拉，三文治等。还有一些瑞士点品，果汁，汽水等。要是你在早上九点至九点半内购买你的食物的话，咖啡可是免费的噢。要是超过时间的话，一杯咖啡可要花上RM3.++ 噢。但是他们的咖啡可是无限量添加的，你想要喝十杯也可以。通常我们会拿咖啡和炒什么的，加了政府抽税每人才RM1.05而已。便宜吧？其实以前红茶（LIPTON）也和咖啡是一样是免费的，一整盒摆在咖啡机旁任顾客取用，就因为一些贪小便宜的人，滥用了这个权益，不是浪费就是把茶包偷打包回家，他们就不再有这种优惠了。有些人把糖，奶精，胡椒粉，纸巾等也打包回家，其实这些东西有那么贵吗？需要做到这样吗？现在糖又起价，应该会有更多人会把一包包的糖带回家吧！

吃了早餐后，我们去The Curve 的 Nichii 看衣服。现在流行长且宽松的上衣，再加一条粗腰带，再衬窄身裤。我们这班师奶可说是他们的第一班客人，也算是最吵的吧！：）试了好多件，连掌试衣间的员工脸都黑掉了。但我们又不是试了没买，干嘛给我们脸色看啊？不试穿哪知道适不适合嘛？真是的。。。。 我今天的收获也不错啦，买了三件上衣和一条裤子，再买多一两件该够过年穿啰。哈哈。。。。。。。

从这两出剧里看到了很多”漂亮” 的男孩.  我心里不禁在想, 这类型的男孩是现今流行的吗? 现在的人对男生的审美观已不再和我们那时代的一样了吗? 以前我们看男生的标准都是看英俊, 潇洒, 有型, 有男人味, 身材结实等等….. 就像刘德华, Brat Pitt 那类型的, 不是吗? 但现在的男生却已从英俊变成漂亮? 有型变成斯文, 男人味变成女人味?

偶尔老公会在旁看一下, 他也忍不住问我, 那是什么男生啊? 怎么都好像女生的? 你那男性朋友到底是看戏里的男生还是女生啊?  回想一下, 好像打从流星花园的F4那时开始吧, 英俊的男生都变成漂亮了,好像仔仔一样.  但是在–是美男啊里 的男主角就真让我反胃, 简直像个人妖似的.

我看连台湾女生也开始流行芭比娃娃那种可爱型的, 不再是成熟且有女人味的那类型了吗?

也许我的思想比较落后? 老土? 跟不上潮流? 无论现在流行哪样的类型, 我还是比较喜欢英俊有型的那种, 哈哈!!!!

After picking him up, I would ask him what he’d been up to at school.  Was he a good boy? Did he jump around? Which teacher does he likes the most? How many new friends had he made so far? Which new friend does he like to play with? What sort of activities did he participate in?

He would create all kinds of stories (even things that didn’t really happen!).  He seems excited to go to this school so far.  This is what concerns me the most, because his previous school didn’t do a good job in making sure he was settled in.  Sometimes, he’d come back without his underwear. Another time he’d come home wearing his shirt backwards and pants inside out. I complained to the principle about this and she told me that my son did those things himself. Remember, this is my three year old son and he hadn’t learned how to put on his own clothes yet.

Everyday the feedback I’d get when picking him up from school would be a negative one. He’d be punished for running about in class and for not listening to the teacher. It had become an almost daily occurrence which made him hate going to school. To me, they weren’t doing enough to ensure that he was sufficiently interested in the topics they were teaching. He was acting out because I think he was bored. He’s the sort of child which easily gets bored and is captivated by new things. Even when he is running about, he picks up what the teacher is teaching him. It is up to the teacher to find a way to get his attention and not reprimanding a three year old daily. Every toddler has a short attention span. Most if not all toddlers can only focus on something for maybe 10-30 minutes at a time. They’d get bored after that.

I hope this new school will do a better job in educating my lil guy.

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这出戏反映着现今一些kiasu 父母的心态。被那些无知的父母逼得透不过气的小孩，除了上学，还得上无数的补习课，华语，数学，英文，科学等等。那还有时间玩啊？

现在的小孩上学的书包不但笨重，老师还要用一大堆作业簿，书本。还有在我国，如果孩子上华校的话，功课是多么的繁重。但还是好多人争着把孩子送去华校。 就连我们的异族同胞也争先要入读华校。然后又有什么精英班，实在是好大的压力啊！父母互相比较孩子的成绩，互相比较谁家孩子上最多补习班，受罪的还不是孩子吗？

希望那些父母都有看这出戏，别再逼得孩子喘不过气了。我们从前都不是这样过活，现在还不是活得好好的吗？

现在的小孩没有什么童年，整天不是补习，游泳，钢琴，小提琴，电脑，芭蕾舞等等，不像我们以前拥有那样多姿多彩的童年。现在的父母怕肮脏，怕危险，什么都不准孩子去做，过分保护，搞到孩子娇生惯养。老师打一下就要被告虐待，上头条。我们以前何尝不是被打大的呢？

醒醒吧！别再逼你们的孩子了，现在好多孩子离家出走，自杀，患上忧郁症，不想下一个轮到你们的孩子啊！多放些心思在他们的身上，跟他们一起复习，玩乐，还可以促进亲子关系呢！这个社会也会减少好多罪犯啊！

Even though it might be repeated job everyday. Wake up in the morning, I have to get myself ready before my son wakes up. By the time i finish bathing, he would have awake already. Get him ready for school, picking him up, feed him, make him nap, play with him, feed him dinner, make him sleep.

Depends on his mood, sometimes he would be in a very good mood, so he would cooperate with you, he would happily drink his milk and water, get change and get ready for school.   But sometimes he would wakes up wrong side of the bed, crying, kicking, throwing tantrum, I would have to crack my head to think of how to make up his day.  I have to be very patient, slowly tackle him, talk to him and play with him until he get back to his happy mood.  That is the toughest part.  You can see the time pass every single minutes he is still throwing his tantrum and you know it is almost time for his school, but he still haven’t ready to get change, you will get mad too.  So at this moment, my EQ is very important.  If I dun control my EQ properly, then I will be explode and the situation will end up even worse.  He will end up crying even harder and vomit and messing up the whole floor.  Then I will end up even more angry and more works to do.

For the pass 4 days I start taking care of my little boy, he would be in different mood everyday. Sometimes he would ask for his grandma, sometimes he won’t even bother. So the stress is even worse than working stress.  And don’t forget that this is not a paying job and it can be 24 hrs a day and 7 days weeks job. It is more tough than to tackle your boss.

Besides the stress from tackling my son, I have to face my MIL nagging daily, have to learn to ignore and filter what I don’t like to hear.  Have to learn to forgive and forget.  It is not an easy job either.  But i just have to bare with it for the sake of my hubby and son.

Even though this is a very tough job, but I am happy to do it because I can see my son is getting closer to me. For the past 3 yrs, I had been working and he would be at home with his grandma.  By the time I am home, I would be exhausted and don’t feel like playing with him anymore.  So indirectly I had ignored him for 3 yrs. This is the time for me to really spend more time with him before he is really growing up and don’t need me to be by his side anymore.  I think it is a worthy job for me to take up.  Now that I planning for 2nd baby, I hope I can spend more time with him so he won’t feel he is being neglected after his little bro or sis is born.  I want to give him all my love now and hope he would grow up healthy and be a great person.

Lastly, I really salute my mum for bringing up 5 of us.  I really do not know how she can manage it where I only have one and I already feel like dying.

To avoid listening to her nagging,  i decided just park in when i saw a parking lot nearby the mosque and the school.  So it was quite far from the park and less car passing by that area.

When we are going back, i feel something is not right in my heart.  Why is the car so far away, i still cannot see my car.  So i ask my mother in law, where is the car, she say it was further down, finally i saw the car.  But when i try to use the key to unlock the car, the key just seem cannot enter the key hole.  Some bad feeling coming up, did someone break in the car? True enough, i quickly went to the passenger side and open the door, check in the glove compartment.  Both our coin purse were gone.  So i was checking all over the drain around and on the road.  Thinking that damn, all my I/C and license were gone… and my credit card, ATM card…. I got to cancel all my card immediately and need to go to the police station to make report.  I have a movie to catch later… how am i going to settle all in time?

When i turn around, i saw the two wallet is place under the car wiper, i was so excited.  I quickly take and check it.  All my money were gone but everything else were still in… luckily the thieve did not take my I/C and license n the credit card and ATM card. Thank god for that.  Anyway, i lost around RM200 in total.

And it teach me a very good lesson.  To me it is a bit expensive because this month i already quite broke still lost RM200.  With that money i can buy so many things already.  Really heartache but just can’t do anything with it.  Just pray to god that it did not happen when i was there and it might be even more scary if we were to be at the scene when the thieve trying to rob us?

I just got a call from my mum, my sis in law just been rob in Sg. long, her car, hand bag and handphone all gone… OMG, what kind of world is this?  The robber even chopped her with parang.  She get many stitches and her shirt is covered with blood.  So scary, her daughter is in the car with her, luckily she manage to pull her out before the robber drove her car away.

他也开始上幼儿园了。明天就满三个星期了。他第一天上学，我比他还紧张，甚至还失眠呢。第二天，我家婆竟然丢下我一个人面对送儿子上学的压力， 真没义气。儿子拉着我的手提袋，不肯放手，我的车又挡着邻居的大门，必须去移车，当时的心情真是不知如何形容是好，走有不是，不走又不能，心里酸溜溜的，我的眼泪也跟着不受控制的直流不停。结果在逼不得已的情况下把他塞给了一个老师，一走了之。把车停在对面后，偷偷在大门前偷看他，心痛得不得了，看他哭得好凄凉，真想冲进去抱着他，但我知道如果我一进去，一切的努力都要白费了。就在那儿也认识了另外一个妈妈，他儿子今年5岁了，也是哭得半条命似的，她也心痛得半命，结果我俩在那晒着太阳，汗流浃背的在墙外偷偷的望着在里头哭得好凄凉的两个小孩。哭了三天，第四天好多了，只是流了一点点泪，安心多了。第二个星期还会对我说不要去学校，这星期起都没再说什么，开开心心上学去咯。希望放完就天年假后，他不会又要我再从来吧，不过那时我可能要上班了，只好让家婆自己去面对咯。

媳婦永遠都是別人家的小孩，男女都要看..很讚！

講的真好呀……

我是楊 小姐，與吳先生結婚後，

他還是叫吳先生，可是我就變成了吳 太太。

稱謂上的轉換倒無所謂，令我難受的是實質的生活際遇：

吳家的大小事就是我的事，而我娘家的事可就不關他的事。

婆婆與媽媽都有慢性病，常常身子不舒適，

結婚三年以來，即使我有事忙，

或是自己也生病時，都得忍著不適帶婆婆就醫，

期間看了中西醫無數次，而她的態度總是像皇太后般頤指氣使。

反觀幾天前，跟老公提及媽媽跌傷了腿，之後他壓根忘了這件事，

連續幾天我自己帶媽媽就醫，電話追蹤復元狀況。

再提及此事時，老公只說了句：

「噢，那妳替我問候她！」更好笑的是，我媽媽因此就稱讚女婿有心。

我們星期日的午餐例行是與婆家共進，而晚餐則與娘家共聚。

然而，到婆家吃午飯，

我與印傭須提早一個小時抵達，好幫忙婆婆做飯，

每次一進門，婆婆總是逕將手中的蔬菜遞給我揀，

看不出有一點孩子們回家團聚的喜悅，

只在意我是不是晚了幾分鐘去，是不是少幫她炒了一道菜。

反觀在娘家的晚餐實況：

通常媽媽要我們六點鐘到，當我們在六點時進家門，

飯菜早已香氣四溢，媽媽總是熱情地招呼丈夫；

菜色、水果及零食皆針對每個人的喜好而預備。

飯後我們幫忙收拾，媽媽還趕我們去看電視，

頻說：「難得回來，放著就好。」

每次看見婆婆對我及媽媽對待女婿之間如此大的差異，

而老公卻覺得那是理所當然時，我就懷疑女人為什麼要結婚？

如果媳婦也能以一句「替我問候你媽媽！」來表達對婆婆的孝心，

也許我們的日子就會好過多了，老公，可以嗎？

結論就是對婆婆而言,媳婦永遠都是別人家的小孩啦！

姐妹們，

請狂寄給眾男子讓他們可以設身處地的發揮他們的‘豬心‘替老婆想想吧!

怎样？姐妹们，有没说中你们的心声呢？男士们，这些事情是否正在上演着？如果是的话，应该是时候检讨咯！

时间过得真快，大学毕业后,各有个忙事业,家庭…… 很少有机会坐下来闲聊,今天也是趁着她午休的那短短一个小时,三人一起谈谈最近的生活点点滴滴. 很快的她又得回去上班了，不知道下一次见面又会是何时呢？

好怀念读书时期的一切,虽然必须面对考试的压力,但还算过着无忧无愁的生活，不愁吃，不愁穿。现在可不同了，忙着赚钱，每每总是钱不够用，不管怎么省吃俭用，到了月底口袋和户口所剩的也没多少。每每辛辛苦苦储了一点点，一定有些东西需要买，或有些事情发生，必须动用到这笔钱。听说钱不够用第二集已上映，这出戏演得好真实，也很滑稽，简直是现代人的生活写照，一点也没错。一定要下载来看，不能错过。