农历新年

再过两个星期就是我们华人的农历新年了。

我一点也兴奋不起来，只觉一年比一年更没有感觉了，尤其是今年。可能是今年没有做工了，所以不敢像往年一样乱花钱，去购物时一点都不爽，而且购物中心里也没什么新年气氛。老公的家人丁稀少，过年不会像娘家一样吵吵闹闹的。小姑不在，团年饭也是静静的四个人你望着我，我望着你，只有儿子的声音，家公在时，没人敢说话，吃饱了就各自回房。这么多年来，来自大家庭的我还是不习惯在这个家过年。我喜欢在娘家和兄姐们吵闹的在一起， 大家有说有笑的，好不开心，老公则相反，觉得我家人很吵。

也可能因为今年没有老爸和我们一起过年了，所以一点也不期待新年的到来。以前一到新年就得忙进忙出，相约和兄姐们一起回家乡，现在连老妈也已搬来和二姐一起住了，也没有家乡回了。一年比一年更寂静，只想留在家，哪里也不想去，没心情。。。。。。 是我老了吗？

新年好像是小孩最期待的日子吧，因为可以去拜年收到好多红包。结了婚的就荷包穿洞，因必须派红包。还没结婚的也应该不很期待过年吧，一把年纪还收红包，很不好意思，见到那些老一辈的亲朋戚友还不停的追问你何时要结婚啊等的，不结婚有罪吗？现在都流行迟婚耶，必须事业有成，有车有楼，才好结婚呢! 我呢？他们就会问我，什么时候生第二个呢？孩子已这么大了，是时候生了，不要隔太久，等下小孩之间感情不好等等。生孩子倒是很容易，难是在照顾和养育，现在什么东西都贵耶，奶粉，尿片，玩具。。。。 什么天生天养的，那不是我的原则。我要给孩子最好的，孩子要的东西，我都希望能够给他。

在此希望孩子每天快快乐乐，健康长大，就心满意足了，也希望我早日找到一份好工作啦！

祝大家新年快乐，万事如意，工作顺利，发大财啦！恭喜恭喜！！！！

纤体的经验

其实早在N年前也有去过 Slimming Sanctuary签购了大概RM4-5K 的纤体配套，因为老姐也是在同一间做，所以就没有多询问几间就直接签购了。因那时的经验不错，所以想说也试试其他纤体中心的服务和配套，看看有何分别， 将来可以考虑签配套瘦身啊！刚巧去年大概十月尾，在The Curve 那儿有一班女孩在售卖Mayfair纤体中心的第一次试用的固本和配套大概RM29（太久了，不记得了！）。老公就买了一份送给我。但是我拿回来后就把它搁在一边，一直都有打去预约，因为怕家婆不高兴我出去。后来也就把它忘掉了。直到最近老公提起才想起，看看就快过期了，就赶紧打电话去预约了， 才告诉家婆。

我预约了昨天下午去Damansara Utama 的分行试做减肥疗程。这个疗程分三个部分完成。有一个是站在一架仪器上10分钟，不停地左右摇摆，好像Osim的那种，不同的是这机器有红外线灯照向下半身。开始时还好，后来觉得很热，然后可能抖得太强烈，内脏都好像快打结了，觉得很痛，很不舒服。 然后就让我去做一个多加 的疗程叫Slim Master – http://www.mayfairbeauty.com/new/home/images/slimmaster_promo_eng.jpg。是用一支好像又圆又大的东西，在肥胖的部位推动，说会使脂肪膨胀。还有一阵阵刺耳的吱吱声，说是越多脂肪的地方，就会越大声。然后又用一只东西在刚才推动的地方吸，说是帮助破解已膨胀的脂肪，我只觉得那东西吸的我的皮快脱出来了，一阵阵瘀青的感觉，真的难受极了。做了一边就叫我摸摸看有没有分别。，说了的地方会比较软，但我就没觉得有什么分别了。 Consultant说做这疗程的效果会好像整容抽脂，但无风险，有些顾客在抽脂手术前会先来做这疗程，软化脂后，手术就没那么痛，真的吗？第一次的试用价是RM49。平常是RM900 一次。最后一个疗程是把一个出产于Spain的辣椒膏（Chilli Cream – 用辣椒种子制成的）涂在腿上，让后用保鲜纸包扎起来。 就这样好像木乃伊一样叫我走回刚才换衣的房间。躺了大概20-30 分钟，才来帮我把保鲜纸剪掉，这时我只觉得大腿又红又痒，好不难受。整个疗程并没有想象中一样，只觉得很难挨，希望疗程尽快结束。 固本写整个疗程会耗时75分钟，但当美容顾问解释将会做的疗程时间只不过才1 小时而已，再加20分钟而外还钱的疗程才勉强筹足75 分钟。我问她为什么疗程时间并没有根据固本上写的呢？她说那时间里也包括了疗程解释，换房，包扎等时间，有点被骗的感觉吧！而且原价可是RM680呢！

今天我预约了另一个疗程是做减压背部按摩(Anti Stressing)和护脸（Lifting Facial）。一去到就叫我换衣，第一个疗程是站在昨天那抖得我五脏六腑都要打结的仪器上，好不容易捱到10分钟。然后叫我回去刚才的房间。就开始帮我按“摸”（因为没觉得什么力度，感觉她在摸我的背和肩膀，所以叫按“摸”，不叫按摩！），然后就开始洗脸（根本没有检验我是什么肤质的，这不是护脸第一次必须的步骤吗？），然后磨砂。后来又涂了一层Gel，又用一支东西在脸上很有顺序的刮，这应该是这个疗程的重点吧。之后就把一片纱布铺在脸上，再把面膜涂上。迷迷糊糊不知躺了多久，只觉得脚很痹，背也很痛，终于等到闹钟响了，可以除去面膜了。心想下一步应该是蒸脸和去除黑头吧？怎知她只涂了应该是润肤液就告诉我完成了。我真还是第一次洗脸没有去除黑头的呢！临走前柜台小姐问我要预约下个疗程时间吗？我就说先回去看效果在决定，其实心里已另有打算了。我问她我刚做的疗程值多少钱？别吓坏咯。。。。 是RM350！ 天啊，我才不会花那么多钱给这样的护理呢！我常去的护脸疗程才RM50而已，还有脸部按摩呢！

整体经验来说，服务和疗程都不符合我的要求，这是给钱受罪。穿着浴袍到处走，不同疗程必须在不同的房间做，很不方便，也很没有privacy。对于第一次光顾的我，好像必须知道他们的器材必须如何使用似的，解说是也只草草带过，还有一张固本是赠送一支瘦身洗澡水（Slim Bath Shower Gel），也没给我，算了吧，反正我不会再去那儿了。比起以前在Slimming Sanctuary的服务和疗程实在是差了一大截。Slimming Sanctuary的服务很好，室内设计也摩登，除了Steam Bath和Jacuzzi必须在另外房间做，其他疗程都在同一间房里完成，疗程也没有让人感到痛苦，也见到效果，需要用到的仪器将由美容师推进推出，顾客不需要到处走动，肚子饿了，还可叫他们泡杯茶和拿饼干让你填饱肚子呢。需要的话，还可以在那冲凉洗头，在吹干头发在离开呢，不必带着满身粘膩的身体到处走动。虽然我已没再和他们签购任何配套，每年生日他们照旧及生日卡给我，还附送免费护脸固本和其他配套优惠固本。我老姐还有继续和他们签购护脸疗程，久不久就有礼品拿回家，还算不错吧！

结婚择日

小姑终于要结婚了。她要家婆去帮她选好日子，没想到那么西化思想的她也相信这一套。可是我看她一点都不紧张，还说选不到不要紧，可以慢慢来，要不是男朋友催婚，我看她不结婚也不要紧。家婆就要求我找要去哪里选日期。

我以前是在罗铁笔选的，但她说罗铁笔要去两次很麻烦，她自己又不会去，就要求我找其他地方咯。罗铁笔是在吉隆坡市中心的，在次厂街附近。第一次去是给我们的资料，如生辰八字，名字，双方父母的生肖等。蛮多人的，要排队很久才轮到我们。除了结婚择日，那儿也有帮人算命，婴儿取名，改名等的服务。几个星期后我们就再去一次，这一次去是去拿日期，他也有给我们一个红盒子，里面含有男女双方过大礼，结婚出门，结婚前需要用到的一些礼节，拜祖先等需要用到的红包袋等。全部都印刷得一清二楚，交给我们，很专业也很商业化，一切日期都由电脑软件计算出来的。

我在网上看到另外还有两个地方可以帮你选日期的，就是罗添记和谷中鸣。家婆就说要试让罗添记选。他那儿只有在星期四至星期日有帮人选日子而已，早上11点到下午4点。

罗添记其实是一间卖结婚用品的店，也有租借裙褂。结婚择日的是一位老婆婆。她要了一对新人的生辰八字，双方家长的生肖等，就在通聖察看，她会问你大概要选在什么月分，她只会选两个日期给你，要是不适合，可以再回去找她重选，不算钱的。

店里的小姐也很会做生意，一直叫你买东买西的，结婚真的要花很多钱，漂亮的茶几要整RM300。 家婆是个喜欢收集茶壶的人，所以看到那么特别的茶几，就情不自禁的买下来了。它的茶杯弄成唐装一样，杯子和茶壶都有中国结的图样，真的好特别，质地也和普通茶几差很远，一点粗糙的感觉都没有，图案也很细致，要是我有钱，一定会买下来。还有那些好意头的东西都还没买呢。这新娘子还挺好命的，自己的结婚大事，一点也不用操心，从择日到酒席，全部都要我们来帮她搞定，就因为她人在英国嘛。我以前结婚哪有那么好，全部东西都要自己做，自己买，自己安排，老公什么都没理。还好准备的日子蛮久，没那么赶，我可以慢慢的准备咯。

以下是三个结婚择日的地方让读者参考噢！希望选个良辰吉日结婚，可以让我们大家都幸福快乐噢！！！！

罗铁笔结婚择日馆
(LOH TAT PIT / LOH TIT PAT)
No. 63-D, 1st Floor, Jalan Sultan, 50000 KL.
Tel: 03 – 2070 0917
营业时间：
星期一至星期四：9 a.m. – 4 p.m.
星期日：9 a.m. – 12 p.m.
星期五及农历大节日休息

罗添记 Loh Tim Kee 收费RM100
Add：3-5 Lorong Pudu, 50050 KL.
(behind Kota Raya Complex Car park
Tel：03-20721662

谷中鸣 Kok CHong Ming 收费RM90
Website: http://www.kokchongming.com/
Kuala Lumpur Main Office
No.4-1, Jalan Pinggir, 4KM,Jalan Ipoh,51200 Kuala Lumpur.
Tel: 603-4041 9613, 4041 9614, 4041 9618 Fax: 603-4041 9619
Email : enquiry@kokchongming.com

一班师奶

在儿子的新学校结交了几个新朋友，早上各自送了孩子上学后，就一起相约去吃早餐，上巴刹或者逛街直到11：30才去接孩子放学。

再过一个月，就是我们华人的农历新年，也该是时候物色几件新衣过年了吧！

于是今天早上送了儿子上学后，就约了那几个师奶一起去IKEA吃早餐和买衣服咯。

IKEA是我们这些师奶和一些退休人士最喜欢去的地方。在那儿吃早餐是最经济的，而且每天都卖不同的食物。有时是炒面，米粉，粿条，饭，粥，椰浆饭才RM1而已。另外还有叉烧包，连蓉包，炸鸡翼，沙拉，三文治等。还有一些瑞士点品，果汁，汽水等。要是你在早上九点至九点半内购买你的食物的话，咖啡可是免费的噢。要是超过时间的话，一杯咖啡可要花上RM3.++ 噢。但是他们的咖啡可是无限量添加的，你想要喝十杯也可以。通常我们会拿咖啡和炒什么的，加了政府抽税每人才RM1.05而已。便宜吧？其实以前红茶（LIPTON）也和咖啡是一样是免费的，一整盒摆在咖啡机旁任顾客取用，就因为一些贪小便宜的人，滥用了这个权益，不是浪费就是把茶包偷打包回家，他们就不再有这种优惠了。有些人把糖，奶精，胡椒粉，纸巾等也打包回家，其实这些东西有那么贵吗？需要做到这样吗？现在糖又起价，应该会有更多人会把一包包的糖带回家吧！

吃了早餐后，我们去The Curve 的 Nichii 看衣服。现在流行长且宽松的上衣，再加一条粗腰带，再衬窄身裤。我们这班师奶可说是他们的第一班客人，也算是最吵的吧！：）试了好多件，连掌试衣间的员工脸都黑掉了。但我们又不是试了没买，干嘛给我们脸色看啊？不试穿哪知道适不适合嘛？真是的。。。。 我今天的收获也不错啦，买了三件上衣和一条裤子，再买多一两件该够过年穿啰。哈哈。。。。。。。

花样男子?

自从在btchina下载了Astro Demand的香港连续剧后, 我就停止追看韩剧和日剧了.  直到最近btchina被中国政府关闭后, 没办法被逼看回韩剧了.  但又没头绪要下载什么戏看, 于是就问朋友最近有什么戏好看的, 他就介绍我最近不知在8TV还是NTV7播放的花样男子–韩版流星花园.  我同时也下载了另外一出叫–是美男啊.

从这两出剧里看到了很多”漂亮” 的男孩.  我心里不禁在想, 这类型的男孩是现今流行的吗? 现在的人对男生的审美观已不再和我们那时代的一样了吗? 以前我们看男生的标准都是看英俊, 潇洒, 有型, 有男人味, 身材结实等等….. 就像刘德华, Brat Pitt 那类型的, 不是吗? 但现在的男生却已从英俊变成漂亮? 有型变成斯文, 男人味变成女人味?

偶尔老公会在旁看一下, 他也忍不住问我, 那是什么男生啊? 怎么都好像女生的? 你那男性朋友到底是看戏里的男生还是女生啊?  回想一下, 好像打从流星花园的F4那时开始吧, 英俊的男生都变成漂亮了,好像仔仔一样.  但是在–是美男啊里 的男主角就真让我反胃, 简直像个人妖似的.

我看连台湾女生也开始流行芭比娃娃那种可爱型的, 不再是成熟且有女人味的那类型了吗?

也许我的思想比较落后? 老土? 跟不上潮流? 无论现在流行哪样的类型, 我还是比较喜欢英俊有型的那种, 哈哈!!!!

Back to school

Today is the fourth day of my son’s trial at Tadika Diyana.  He seems to adapted pretty well there compared to last year, but he WAS just three years old then.

After picking him up, I would ask him what he’d been up to at school.  Was he a good boy? Did he jump around? Which teacher does he likes the most? How many new friends had he made so far? Which new friend does he like to play with? What sort of activities did he participate in?

He would create all kinds of stories (even things that didn’t really happen!).  He seems excited to go to this school so far.  This is what concerns me the most, because his previous school didn’t do a good job in making sure he was settled in.  Sometimes, he’d come back without his underwear. Another time he’d come home wearing his shirt backwards and pants inside out. I complained to the principle about this and she told me that my son did those things himself. Remember, this is my three year old son and he hadn’t learned how to put on his own clothes yet.

Everyday the feedback I’d get when picking him up from school would be a negative one. He’d be punished for running about in class and for not listening to the teacher. It had become an almost daily occurrence which made him hate going to school. To me, they weren’t doing enough to ensure that he was sufficiently interested in the topics they were teaching. He was acting out because I think he was bored. He’s the sort of child which easily gets bored and is captivated by new things. Even when he is running about, he picks up what the teacher is teaching him. It is up to the teacher to find a way to get his attention and not reprimanding a three year old daily. Every toddler has a short attention span. Most if not all toddlers can only focus on something for maybe 10-30 minutes at a time. They’d get bored after that.

I hope this new school will do a better job in educating my lil guy.

书包太重

最近在追看着一出新加坡的连续剧–书包太重。

http://www.mobtv.sg/Media/MediaDetails.aspx?mediaid=MDC090417-0000008&menuid=68

这出戏反映着现今一些kiasu 父母的心态。被那些无知的父母逼得透不过气的小孩，除了上学，还得上无数的补习课，华语，数学，英文，科学等等。那还有时间玩啊？

现在的小孩上学的书包不但笨重，老师还要用一大堆作业簿，书本。还有在我国，如果孩子上华校的话，功课是多么的繁重。但还是好多人争着把孩子送去华校。 就连我们的异族同胞也争先要入读华校。然后又有什么精英班，实在是好大的压力啊！父母互相比较孩子的成绩，互相比较谁家孩子上最多补习班，受罪的还不是孩子吗？

希望那些父母都有看这出戏，别再逼得孩子喘不过气了。我们从前都不是这样过活，现在还不是活得好好的吗？

现在的小孩没有什么童年，整天不是补习，游泳，钢琴，小提琴，电脑，芭蕾舞等等，不像我们以前拥有那样多姿多彩的童年。现在的父母怕肮脏，怕危险，什么都不准孩子去做，过分保护，搞到孩子娇生惯养。老师打一下就要被告虐待，上头条。我们以前何尝不是被打大的呢？

醒醒吧！别再逼你们的孩子了，现在好多孩子离家出走，自杀，患上忧郁症，不想下一个轮到你们的孩子啊！多放些心思在他们的身上，跟他们一起复习，玩乐，还可以促进亲子关系呢！这个社会也会减少好多罪犯啊！

Trip to Hatyai, Thailand

In March this year, I visited Hatyai following a tour organised by my mum-in-law’s friend for 3 days. It was quite an interesting experience. We deliberately went for a no-frills, low budget approach. And that meant almost 2 days in a bus. But it was a cheery trip both ways, with the whole bus singing away at karaoke’s greatest hits.

For the life of me, I can’t remember the name of the hotel I stayed in, but it was quite new and near Lee Gardens Hotel. In any case, we didn’t spend much time in the hotel, basically just using it for quick pitstops and a place to bed down for the night.

As is the norm when travelling with a bunch of aunties, we visited *quite* a few temples.  These included the Guan Yin temple, the Four-faced Buddha temple and the Stainless Steel temple.  Of course, no trip to Thailand is ever complete without a massage.  I have to say that whilst the massage felt good, I could’ve gone for a better choice of venue as the place we went to had WEIRD smelling bath robes. Note to self: don’t skimp when going for a massage.

Hatyai’s day and night markets, whilst not very different from the ones we see in Malaysia are still different enough for you to realise that you’re not in Malaysia.  All the Aunties bought stainless steel pots and pans. I on the other hand only bought a few small steel cups (so my son won’t break them when he drops them) and a tiffany to pack food.

We also bought some pork and duck noodles at the shops just before border. It seems that it is one of the ‘must buy’ items when visiting Hatyai. The other things popular with Aunties is medicated oil.

Visit my Facebook album for some photos of the trip.

Baby Sitting

You might be thinking that taking care of a small little kid is just an easy job?  No, you are very wrong.  It is even tougher than working in a big organisation.

Even though it might be repeated job everyday. Wake up in the morning, I have to get myself ready before my son wakes up. By the time i finish bathing, he would have awake already. Get him ready for school, picking him up, feed him, make him nap, play with him, feed him dinner, make him sleep.

Depends on his mood, sometimes he would be in a very good mood, so he would cooperate with you, he would happily drink his milk and water, get change and get ready for school.   But sometimes he would wakes up wrong side of the bed, crying, kicking, throwing tantrum, I would have to crack my head to think of how to make up his day.  I have to be very patient, slowly tackle him, talk to him and play with him until he get back to his happy mood.  That is the toughest part.  You can see the time pass every single minutes he is still throwing his tantrum and you know it is almost time for his school, but he still haven’t ready to get change, you will get mad too.  So at this moment, my EQ is very important.  If I dun control my EQ properly, then I will be explode and the situation will end up even worse.  He will end up crying even harder and vomit and messing up the whole floor.  Then I will end up even more angry and more works to do.

For the pass 4 days I start taking care of my little boy, he would be in different mood everyday. Sometimes he would ask for his grandma, sometimes he won’t even bother. So the stress is even worse than working stress.  And don’t forget that this is not a paying job and it can be 24 hrs a day and 7 days weeks job. It is more tough than to tackle your boss.

Besides the stress from tackling my son, I have to face my MIL nagging daily, have to learn to ignore and filter what I don’t like to hear.  Have to learn to forgive and forget.  It is not an easy job either.  But i just have to bare with it for the sake of my hubby and son.

Even though this is a very tough job, but I am happy to do it because I can see my son is getting closer to me. For the past 3 yrs, I had been working and he would be at home with his grandma.  By the time I am home, I would be exhausted and don’t feel like playing with him anymore.  So indirectly I had ignored him for 3 yrs. This is the time for me to really spend more time with him before he is really growing up and don’t need me to be by his side anymore.  I think it is a worthy job for me to take up.  Now that I planning for 2nd baby, I hope I can spend more time with him so he won’t feel he is being neglected after his little bro or sis is born.  I want to give him all my love now and hope he would grow up healthy and be a great person.

Lastly, I really salute my mum for bringing up 5 of us.  I really do not know how she can manage it where I only have one and I already feel like dying.

Relieve

Finally, i decided to tender my letter and stay at home to take care of my son now.  Before this i have been confusing between tender or not tender.  It is not an easy decision to make.  I need to consider about the financial for the family, can i accept the life as an SAHM, also will my family support my decision.  Finally after many discussion with my husband.  He also support me after all.

Now I have to start to get use to life staying at home.  Morning have to get my son ready to school, then do some chores and cook lunch for him.  After than go get him back from school.  Feed him, make him nap etc… everyday… monday to friday….

Hope I will get use to it soon.